Co -Education/Co -working with cross gender root cause of deteriorating family life?
Cultures,virtues,abstinence,puritan way of life, austerity, simple living & high thinking are seems now merely the words from book only.
Day by day our life style is becoming faster. every body wants to stride, to capture the world in it's fistiscuff.
This kind of mentality has increased the expectations of right from new born baby to senior citizen in the family.
ultimately person male or female whether studying or working works under tremendous pressure/stress.
work pressure is good thing to get going but if stress & tense is added to it it gives fuel to fire to corrupt or profane the society.
Obviously now a days situation is created such that no body in the family spares little bit time for each other. No affection, no sentiments, immotions, or love but superficious sympathy has remain in the dictionary bacause to fulfill the increasing family demand spouce remaining running behind money or wealth in this materialistic world. The wealth which they amassed never enjoys pleasantly & leisurely. Ultimate result they try to get solace, peace,& sympathy from cross gender companion,colleague, subordinate etc. Naturally the environment in which they used to work for more than eight hours meet to gather brings them close making them intimate. Courtesy, respect, honour,modesty, politeness with sofistication, love & time for each other which spouse are not finding amongst them. Thus exhibiting on fellow Or co-worker as working person is spending almost one third part of their life span at work place while out of rest two third one part is sleep & rest last includes one's daily cores to family, personal, social matters. Thus lion share of life is being spend at work place. Due to no time for each other, selfish tendency of everybody in the family push the person to find what one is not getting at home to search at work place. Result is foregone conclusion.
Does not this seems to compel us to make collective social efforts to tighten family grip & bond ages, to adopt such a policy at work environment so that periodically family should also be included & make participatory of periodical outing, with office staff as part of welfare measure. Perhaps this may also be one of the best stress removal therapy too for companies & HR department.
Wednesday, September 19, 2007
Tuesday, September 4, 2007
Women empowerment/ female chauvinism can be blaimed for deteriorating family/ conjugal life?
Women empowerment/ female chauvinism can be blamed for deteriorating family/ conjugal life?
Equity before law, equal pay for equal work, women reservation bills, equal opportunity to women in every field, & woman is now giving tough competition to man in every field.
This scenario from social development point of view or upliftment of cross gender is welcomed, also seems necessary too to where such under development is felt.
But simultaneously other side of the coin which is crop up is being ignored by the society.
Majority of the family disputes, conjugal squabbles or quarrels or collapse in family lives are seems quite directly related with women equity or one may evaluate it the side effects of women empowerment.
women development is welcomed but as observed spouse ego, increasing ambitions, earning status of women with high education, time constraint for family, priority to job or work goal rather than family matter or social matter on the part of women, career rather than to be mother or figure rather than baby feeding concepts are the factors primarily crops up to begin family, conjugal infighting, quarreling, dissensions, differences , dissemination etc resulting in distances from each other. Ultimately leading to divorce.Perhaps extra marital relationship is also one of the cause behind this. either one may contemplate alternatively EMR is the consequences of foregoing factors.
Under the circumstances is not time ripe for the society to rethink/ ponder & peep in to flash -back of historical social traditional, customary life style where in specific role was entrusted to male, female, children, seniors of family etc to maintain family bondage? with increased women literacy, awareness, education & knowledge women role of family nurture & nourishing should be redefined with increasing liability of male member towards earning source? If we wants to reduce stress, tension, increasing diseases etc, family bonding should be tightened through affections, love, sentiments, emotions, sensitities,respect & honour towards each other with the sense of sacrifice & dedication for family without exchange expectations.
Equity before law, equal pay for equal work, women reservation bills, equal opportunity to women in every field, & woman is now giving tough competition to man in every field.
This scenario from social development point of view or upliftment of cross gender is welcomed, also seems necessary too to where such under development is felt.
But simultaneously other side of the coin which is crop up is being ignored by the society.
Majority of the family disputes, conjugal squabbles or quarrels or collapse in family lives are seems quite directly related with women equity or one may evaluate it the side effects of women empowerment.
women development is welcomed but as observed spouse ego, increasing ambitions, earning status of women with high education, time constraint for family, priority to job or work goal rather than family matter or social matter on the part of women, career rather than to be mother or figure rather than baby feeding concepts are the factors primarily crops up to begin family, conjugal infighting, quarreling, dissensions, differences , dissemination etc resulting in distances from each other. Ultimately leading to divorce.Perhaps extra marital relationship is also one of the cause behind this. either one may contemplate alternatively EMR is the consequences of foregoing factors.
Under the circumstances is not time ripe for the society to rethink/ ponder & peep in to flash -back of historical social traditional, customary life style where in specific role was entrusted to male, female, children, seniors of family etc to maintain family bondage? with increased women literacy, awareness, education & knowledge women role of family nurture & nourishing should be redefined with increasing liability of male member towards earning source? If we wants to reduce stress, tension, increasing diseases etc, family bonding should be tightened through affections, love, sentiments, emotions, sensitities,respect & honour towards each other with the sense of sacrifice & dedication for family without exchange expectations.
Introspection/ self evaluation regularly & contineously is the mirror of human being to contemplate the goal achievement/work done /left
Think from other's perspective..
Introspection/ self evaluation regularly & continuously is the mirror of human being to contemplate the goal achievement/work done /left to be done.
Man is also said an animal but human being is being distinguished from rest of animals for sense, brain, applying the mind. Otherwise what human being is doing i.e. take food, drink, wandering, growling, quarreling etc is also being done by the rest of the animals. Thus only human being has such distinction to examine & evaluate right or wrong. plausible, postulating, logical & rationale etc can be determined, reviewed & revised by only mankind.
Thus onus is on mankind to do regular introspection self evaluation daily at the evening with asking simple question to self that whatever i have done today is proper, justified & worth fulfilling the obligation imposed on me by virtue of my position.?
If answer comes from within is No One must ponder am i in a position to compensate by repairing damage done or rectify it or is it within my scope to withdraw now from wrong doing further?
One should try to get the answer of it from within one's. if done so Majority of the problems of mankind may be overcome. this may be called as to think from other's perspective.
Introspection/ self evaluation regularly & continuously is the mirror of human being to contemplate the goal achievement/work done /left to be done.
Man is also said an animal but human being is being distinguished from rest of animals for sense, brain, applying the mind. Otherwise what human being is doing i.e. take food, drink, wandering, growling, quarreling etc is also being done by the rest of the animals. Thus only human being has such distinction to examine & evaluate right or wrong. plausible, postulating, logical & rationale etc can be determined, reviewed & revised by only mankind.
Thus onus is on mankind to do regular introspection self evaluation daily at the evening with asking simple question to self that whatever i have done today is proper, justified & worth fulfilling the obligation imposed on me by virtue of my position.?
If answer comes from within is No One must ponder am i in a position to compensate by repairing damage done or rectify it or is it within my scope to withdraw now from wrong doing further?
One should try to get the answer of it from within one's. if done so Majority of the problems of mankind may be overcome. this may be called as to think from other's perspective.
Wednesday, August 29, 2007
Better half & education,Intellegent/emotional quationt,comprosing nature the impact on life
Better half & education,Intellegent/emotional quationt,comprosing nature , mutual understanding, adustment,the impact on life
In Hindu Culture Marriages are either arranged or loved one.
In either of the cases factors narrated never be verified or scrutinised.
Resultantly in case of low level education, after initial beginning disappointment, frustration looms large on either party, which lead the disgruntled one to resort to extra marital relations or indifferent towards family & social responsibilities.
If higher education is there ego clash plays pivotal role in happy conjugal life.
in both the cases intelligent & emotional quotients can have crucial role to patch up. With rapid economic growth India has stride in metro culture, western/ urban life style putting aside Hindu culture of joint families, where spiritual life, social service, humanity & generosity & love & affection, emotions, the feeling of forget & forgives where of great importance & equally reciprocal relationship with happy family life is gone away with fast,metrolife culture.
The sentiments of adjustments & compromising which can be said the other side of life's coin the other one is struggle but ultimately in every step of life one has to compromise by one or other way to get the life going,. This sentiment of compromise, sense of mutual adjustment, understanding, honour to each other's likes & dislikes are gone away due to bookish knowledge.
Ongoing situation compels to come to the conclusion that these virtues & human values have great relevancy in life & unfortunately not grasped with education. club culture, friends group of kitty factors can also be described as hurdles. The need of the hour seems to establish culture clubs, morale & ethical groups & NGOs with human values to save breaking family life, social & human values & Hindu culture.
In Hindu Culture Marriages are either arranged or loved one.
In either of the cases factors narrated never be verified or scrutinised.
Resultantly in case of low level education, after initial beginning disappointment, frustration looms large on either party, which lead the disgruntled one to resort to extra marital relations or indifferent towards family & social responsibilities.
If higher education is there ego clash plays pivotal role in happy conjugal life.
in both the cases intelligent & emotional quotients can have crucial role to patch up. With rapid economic growth India has stride in metro culture, western/ urban life style putting aside Hindu culture of joint families, where spiritual life, social service, humanity & generosity & love & affection, emotions, the feeling of forget & forgives where of great importance & equally reciprocal relationship with happy family life is gone away with fast,metrolife culture.
The sentiments of adjustments & compromising which can be said the other side of life's coin the other one is struggle but ultimately in every step of life one has to compromise by one or other way to get the life going,. This sentiment of compromise, sense of mutual adjustment, understanding, honour to each other's likes & dislikes are gone away due to bookish knowledge.
Ongoing situation compels to come to the conclusion that these virtues & human values have great relevancy in life & unfortunately not grasped with education. club culture, friends group of kitty factors can also be described as hurdles. The need of the hour seems to establish culture clubs, morale & ethical groups & NGOs with human values to save breaking family life, social & human values & Hindu culture.
Increasing aspirations,unlimite cravings, neighbour's & surroundings envy - the cause behind breking conjugal/family lives
Increasing aspirations, unlimited cravings, neighbour's & surroundings envy - the cause behind breaking conjugal/family lives
Every passing day people are distracted from real path of life.
as per mythology & history, or as heard & observed before a half century joint families were there. The care of family children in religious, spiritual, customary, traditional way was being taken by aged, experienced & seniors in the family, good cultures were imparted to them by story telling teaching manners & etiquette. which is now no where seen.
In Blind following the western life style we are forgetting all these for which India is remembered globally for it cultural heritage.
In this rapid competitive, fast life where every one wants to put other behind, conjugal life is also becoming tense day by day. Wife * children are used to compare their family life style with others to whom they comes in to contact. They are either feeling inferiority of superiority complexes, force the head of the family to benchmark with others, again blind rush in life , no moral no ethics, no code of conducts are scrupulously followed, any how one wants more luxury, more comfort. which is the root cause of all happiness. If these cravings are kept limited corruptions, malpractices, manipulations & social crimes can also be kept under controlled. can be restrained a days western countries ARE BECOMING MORE SPIRITUAL more corporeal, we are becoming more materialistic. It seems to maintain the concept of human bond ages we will have to commence more NGO's especially to preach in this regard.
Every passing day people are distracted from real path of life.
as per mythology & history, or as heard & observed before a half century joint families were there. The care of family children in religious, spiritual, customary, traditional way was being taken by aged, experienced & seniors in the family, good cultures were imparted to them by story telling teaching manners & etiquette. which is now no where seen.
In Blind following the western life style we are forgetting all these for which India is remembered globally for it cultural heritage.
In this rapid competitive, fast life where every one wants to put other behind, conjugal life is also becoming tense day by day. Wife * children are used to compare their family life style with others to whom they comes in to contact. They are either feeling inferiority of superiority complexes, force the head of the family to benchmark with others, again blind rush in life , no moral no ethics, no code of conducts are scrupulously followed, any how one wants more luxury, more comfort. which is the root cause of all happiness. If these cravings are kept limited corruptions, malpractices, manipulations & social crimes can also be kept under controlled. can be restrained a days western countries ARE BECOMING MORE SPIRITUAL more corporeal, we are becoming more materialistic. It seems to maintain the concept of human bond ages we will have to commence more NGO's especially to preach in this regard.
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