Impact of astrology on human lives- An experience sharing
Whether it is called superstition or rigidity but equally it is fact that astrology has a great impact on ones life.
In this modern era many a times if one proposes to match horoscope before marriage a class of people may ridicule the person who propose. But from some of the cases I came across as well as of living case of mine I must say the glaring example of what I have narrated.
In my life I have made my level best efforts to compromise & tried to make an adjustment in every walk of life especially in conjugal life. But its in vein. As The impact of certain stars & some situation in horoscope of spouse & in match making makes it difficult for me every time that to continue the normal walk of life I compelled to for go even dignity or status too. Many a time I was thinking education of spouse an ssc may be obstacle on her part to understand the problem ,to discern & to decide but in day to day family life it is of not that much importance. Even illiterate fellow can understand common situation & find out the solution. After all it is nothing but adjustment but if one is adamant & not ready to understand situation, not ready to leave obstinate, or stubbornness, & every time remained captious, snubbing Or fault finder to whom to blame? Nobody in conjugal life prefers such a stressful life & struggle at every moment. If issue is such than one may think the seriousness but for even a futile issue spouse goes in anti direction for the sack of ego, to nourish obstinate attitude putting aside esteem of spouse even being a house wife, under the circumstance obviously one will be forced to look into astrological aspects. Which on study found the situation that every time house wife’s stubbornness will be a major factor & male spouse will have to surrender before situation. This looks quite strange & peculiar but at least I failed to find way Even after trying spiritual & philosophical aspects also.. Many a times situation also compelled me to think profoundly why highly qualified, well educated, good earning male are also forced to surrender against situation. Perhaps his status, dignity, social honor, morals, ethics, understanding of high nature, spirituality, & philosophy are the factors forced the person to compromise forgetting ego. In common parlance t people might be narrating such situation Telling male spouse as obsequious, submissive to female but actually it is chauvinisms.
Sunday, August 9, 2009
Relationship of honourings each other's feeling on daily family life
Relationship of honouring each other's feeling on daily family life.
It has a great relevancy in our daily life of honouring each others feelings If accepted & honoured it has very positive effect & result too in family life. If not one has to face the consequences of it not only him/her self but also for entire family & many a time society too.
Every body in the family might have witnessed that whenever elder family member has advised any thing to younger or head of family has expressed any view always youngsters have either not liked it or if heard ignored it. In the life of every body this vicious circle is going on & completes full circle when the same youngster is facing similar situation in ones life. Whether it is a matter of nurture, nourishment, imparting culture, adhering ethics, education of children, social occasions, matrimony, business, service or any household matters. Elder or head of family has always rationale, logic & plausibility in advising OR coming to any conclusion but unfortunately the similar situation is not faced by rest & youngsters they don't like & accept it. Even it is a matter of experience too for elders to share with rest & to save them from the situation what he had faced earlier. But perhaps it is human tendency too that unless one personally experience one is not ready to accept it or learn lesson.
That's why it is said that the person who is not learning from past mistakes & experience is greatest fool of the world. Even God may not be able to save such foolish from problems, difficulties & troubles.
That's why it seems that this kind of experience sharing study should also be part of school/college curricula.
It has a great relevancy in our daily life of honouring each others feelings If accepted & honoured it has very positive effect & result too in family life. If not one has to face the consequences of it not only him/her self but also for entire family & many a time society too.
Every body in the family might have witnessed that whenever elder family member has advised any thing to younger or head of family has expressed any view always youngsters have either not liked it or if heard ignored it. In the life of every body this vicious circle is going on & completes full circle when the same youngster is facing similar situation in ones life. Whether it is a matter of nurture, nourishment, imparting culture, adhering ethics, education of children, social occasions, matrimony, business, service or any household matters. Elder or head of family has always rationale, logic & plausibility in advising OR coming to any conclusion but unfortunately the similar situation is not faced by rest & youngsters they don't like & accept it. Even it is a matter of experience too for elders to share with rest & to save them from the situation what he had faced earlier. But perhaps it is human tendency too that unless one personally experience one is not ready to accept it or learn lesson.
That's why it is said that the person who is not learning from past mistakes & experience is greatest fool of the world. Even God may not be able to save such foolish from problems, difficulties & troubles.
That's why it seems that this kind of experience sharing study should also be part of school/college curricula.
Sunday, May 10, 2009
Material world, changing Nature, divergent views, Intolerability and gigantic & difficult task to accomplish successfully Family responsibility
Much has been written in mythology, literature, historical books, & philosophy regarding moralistic, ethical family life, human bondages, human virtues, principles of life, culture, decorum etc.
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Though we experience & observed in by & large every family the internal disputes, quarrel, differences of opinion, deviation from family attachment & break down of sentimental Or emotional relations i.e. fractures relations.
In majority of the cases where family fails live to gather along with parents & grand parents son is blamed for not maintain balance & harmony..
For indifferent attitude towards the parents, & the cause commonly contemplated is wife of son’s voice prevail Or dominates over the son. Ultimately feeling of the parents, love & affection to them is being either ignored Or neglected.
Over a period of time it has certainly been noticed that it is not true that son/s are no tendency to care parents, or it is also not true that they are not making any efforts to keep harmonious relationship internally. Reasons For the situation can be attributed to :
1/ Generation gap. Parents are having their own ideology, style of living, beliefs,& way of life which normally trails almost two decades to new generation.
Of course their own children & especially daughters also belongs to same generation as of daughter in law/s But though any how they also not succeeded in maintaining equal balance amongst. Their nature, some traditions, orthodox beliefs also play some part. & The most important old age factor does not support them to cop up with the situation.
2/ Daughter in laws seems feeling sense of insecurity & thus tries to dominate over the family matters & all the issues where in they desperately tries to prevail over & persist their voice. This is the same daughter worry for own parents at maternal home & remain helpless spectator in the hapless situation of their parents as they can’t do any thing to cobble the things. But unfortunately seems reluctant to care the feelings of in laws. Reciprocal behavior towards in laws.
3/ This scenario makes son/s very pathetic& aggrieved. They remains churning their heart towards neglecting & ignoring attitude to their parents. Even though of their level best efforts it becomes difficult to maintain the balance. The reason adamant & uncompressing nature of wife.
One of the reason to arise this kind of situation may be education. Cultural moral, ethical & knowledge gap between son & wife. Another may be frustration of the wives what they have observed at their maternal home about her / their parents. Even working women are also no exception rater they7 should be expected more understandable & comprising but in vain The principles of forget & forgive is lacking. Tolerability is found zero. Though of increasing age their maturity unfortunately do not develop leading the wives to be shrew, vixen, stubborn, obstinate & rigid. If evaluated in aggregate wives have been found insensitive & emotionless Ultimately it makes all the efforts of son/s futile to keep the family gather& tie up.
These certainly increases stress level of son/s very high, putting them under tremendous pressure & making tense.
The position of son/s becomes such which can’t be narrated nor tolerated but to suffer.
Our Ramayan , Mahabharat, The Bhagvad Gita are such sources wher in one can found the panacea but majority of wives are reluctant to resort it.
& Our NGO, social organizations, spiritual leaders are making efforts in futile because it works while discourses or preaches only. One of the reason their impact is not found on people is they themselves are not walking on the guided path. Thus their teeth to chew & show found different.
This is most common pandemic family & society is facing not today but since evolution.
If contemplated & assessed profoundly the root cause of corrupt society, demoralized society, dishonesty, disintegraty, misconduct & valueless society lies in this . As when there is no respect for reverends, no honor, no regard, no manners, no ethics or moral in the person, it will not be found in family & thus not in society & nation too.
Summing up one has to accept that time has come to inculcate all these virtues in children from school level to higher education, 7 Even in adult education too to overcome the issue.
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Though we experience & observed in by & large every family the internal disputes, quarrel, differences of opinion, deviation from family attachment & break down of sentimental Or emotional relations i.e. fractures relations.
In majority of the cases where family fails live to gather along with parents & grand parents son is blamed for not maintain balance & harmony..
For indifferent attitude towards the parents, & the cause commonly contemplated is wife of son’s voice prevail Or dominates over the son. Ultimately feeling of the parents, love & affection to them is being either ignored Or neglected.
Over a period of time it has certainly been noticed that it is not true that son/s are no tendency to care parents, or it is also not true that they are not making any efforts to keep harmonious relationship internally. Reasons For the situation can be attributed to :
1/ Generation gap. Parents are having their own ideology, style of living, beliefs,& way of life which normally trails almost two decades to new generation.
Of course their own children & especially daughters also belongs to same generation as of daughter in law/s But though any how they also not succeeded in maintaining equal balance amongst. Their nature, some traditions, orthodox beliefs also play some part. & The most important old age factor does not support them to cop up with the situation.
2/ Daughter in laws seems feeling sense of insecurity & thus tries to dominate over the family matters & all the issues where in they desperately tries to prevail over & persist their voice. This is the same daughter worry for own parents at maternal home & remain helpless spectator in the hapless situation of their parents as they can’t do any thing to cobble the things. But unfortunately seems reluctant to care the feelings of in laws. Reciprocal behavior towards in laws.
3/ This scenario makes son/s very pathetic& aggrieved. They remains churning their heart towards neglecting & ignoring attitude to their parents. Even though of their level best efforts it becomes difficult to maintain the balance. The reason adamant & uncompressing nature of wife.
One of the reason to arise this kind of situation may be education. Cultural moral, ethical & knowledge gap between son & wife. Another may be frustration of the wives what they have observed at their maternal home about her / their parents. Even working women are also no exception rater they7 should be expected more understandable & comprising but in vain The principles of forget & forgive is lacking. Tolerability is found zero. Though of increasing age their maturity unfortunately do not develop leading the wives to be shrew, vixen, stubborn, obstinate & rigid. If evaluated in aggregate wives have been found insensitive & emotionless Ultimately it makes all the efforts of son/s futile to keep the family gather& tie up.
These certainly increases stress level of son/s very high, putting them under tremendous pressure & making tense.
The position of son/s becomes such which can’t be narrated nor tolerated but to suffer.
Our Ramayan , Mahabharat, The Bhagvad Gita are such sources wher in one can found the panacea but majority of wives are reluctant to resort it.
& Our NGO, social organizations, spiritual leaders are making efforts in futile because it works while discourses or preaches only. One of the reason their impact is not found on people is they themselves are not walking on the guided path. Thus their teeth to chew & show found different.
This is most common pandemic family & society is facing not today but since evolution.
If contemplated & assessed profoundly the root cause of corrupt society, demoralized society, dishonesty, disintegraty, misconduct & valueless society lies in this . As when there is no respect for reverends, no honor, no regard, no manners, no ethics or moral in the person, it will not be found in family & thus not in society & nation too.
Summing up one has to accept that time has come to inculcate all these virtues in children from school level to higher education, 7 Even in adult education too to overcome the issue.
Sunday, March 22, 2009
social upliftment not by government efforts but by self by developing high values, morals, ethics, code of conduct,simplicity & high ideals
social upliftment not by government efforts but by self by developing high values, morals, ethics, code of conduct,simplicity & high ideals
In society everybody expects morals, ethics, high values, code of conducts, manners, etiquette's, discipline, honesty, integrity & loyalty from others. But never think about self. Whether it is family life r social life or on political arena or three tiers of democracy i.e. executives, judiciary & parliamentary.
Elections are round the corner, every where we observe preaches & sermon, advise to cast votes, select simple living high thinking idealistic candidate to bring good governance but no body introspect & contemplate. Who so ever comes to power or politics or leader in the society ultimate goal is to achieve ulterior selfish motive. unless & until this attitude is change no moralistic ethical society or family life will be visualised. & Every body knows the root cause The rising expectation, every body wants other to put behind. Why this blind race behind materialistic world? When person begin to think Where, why & what i am wrong & opponent is right problem will automatic ease & solved.
let us hope the situation to come affirmative.
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