Parenting & sacrificing personal wish, desire & enjoyment

Parenting & sacrificing personal wish, desire & enjoyment
does children remember it?

Right from inception to conjugal life parent always wish to have first child.
& on passage of time during first five years of marriage normally couple might have two children.

In today's fast life, inflationary trend, economic planning along with career planning it becomes difficult for a couple to nurture & nourish children with good culture < values & ethics. Though parents always tries to do so.
Right from birth, to admission to K>G. & subsequently to primary, secondary, higher & college education, with numbers of coaching classes becomes routine schedule for the parents.
In this daily chorus parent forget their own entertainment & enjoyment too.
Many a times for the better prospect of child/ren parents sacrifice personal wish & desire too.
This goes on up to marriage & settle by child/ren. Meanwhile parent never think to leave themselves from this routine to spare time for them to have periodical touring or outing. If planned some time that is always along with child/ren due to nuclear family concept.
After all parents are also human being they too need some intimate, personal moments Prefer to cherish loving moments & wants to absorb in each other for time being. But parenting cost all this. It's impact is realized especially in late forty & early fifty in the form of irritation. anger, loneliness, changing of nature etc. Perhaps this may be the effect called menopause.
Best remedy of it is to spend time to gather by the couple for some period sharing intimate moment too. But unfortunately neither child/ren nor surrounding understand the need.
During the course whenever couple think to spend some time either the problem of child/ren, their parents, social problems & not the least economic problems they are facing.
In middle fifty when they have convenience by all the factors mentioned above by & large physical condition of either may not support, aging factor may be hurdle.
Ultimately, in the late fifty, again responsibility to nurture grand children isbeing imposed upon them thus life cycle completes in this way.
Perhaps Lack of thinking from other's perspective is one the major factor not ablle to understand each other, their requirement & to adjust mutually, while on the part of child/ren their myopic short sighted selfish vision is the factor responsible.

Destiny, dids of past carnation or pre birth plays crucial role in present life

Destiny, dids of past carnation or pre birth plays crucial role in present life
Person living austere life , simple living, high thinking, introspective & perennual evaluating , living life with ethics, morale & honesty sincerity as well as always used to think from other's perspective has to bear the brunt, bruise of bitter life, tolerate the shocks & astonishing stun/ surprises of lives an ordinary person might not have ever imagined such shock waves one has to bear in life.
Situation compells to poder the man who always try to foster, nourish & nurture his/ her children to teach best of the philosophy of life though children rather than learning when take such unbeliavable step in life compells the man to rethink the philosophy of life.
Even though of best of the efforts on the part of parents to make children happy fingin ideal life paretes & matching reciprocasl relative do not appeal to children
Today generation belives themselves smarte them than their elders. Never pose trust in elders Or parents rather finds out their partners themselves. they beilive themselves an architect of their life. Ego. arrogancy little knowledge & immaturiy are the cherecteristics kids have nurtured in them.
Old saying is that daughter is ocean of immotions & such daughter when gave shock wave kicking all sentiments & immotions of parents life ends their for parents.
Perhaps this is not due to lack in culture, nurture or nourishment but may be destines as such. It may be result of dids of person of past birth. Karmani Gati. or Rinanubandh.
My daughter suddenly took the decision to get marry with the boy of her choice & prefer to infiorm me almost after 5 months leaving home to live the life of her choice.
Incident taught me great leeson of life to keep distance from all. No feeling of mine.I am not doing any thing everything is happen as destined.Leave desires, cravings, enchantments, Try to be over of all materil wish & desire.After all everything in life is destriyable, nothing is eternal & none is immortal too.